In the explanation of the previous article, victim mentality can be lost, by stopping feeling sorry for yourself and trying harder to make improvements. The goal is that life doesn't stay down forever. But on the other hand, victim mentality can continue, even though it makes a person feel worse. Here are some reasons why:

• Allows a person to not take responsibility for their life

• Relies on the help of others to help and solve their problems

• Feeling addicted to all the drama in their life

• Prefers to feel sad rather than angry

• Likes others to value her as a victim, especially when she will not be criticized for a problem

• Others will not burden her because they think her own burden is heavy enough

• Others inevitably take care of her

• Opportunities to get what one wants are greater

• Has become a habit that is difficult to break

Victim mentality can continue if a person chooses not to change because they are used to it.

Stopping Victim Mentality in Yourself

Of course, it would be best to get a professional opinion on what feels awkward and get help, especially for processing past trauma. In this way, you will learn to start accepting it and take responsibility for what you can control in the future.

Instead of thinking of yourself as a victim, try calling it something else, such as an abuse survivor. Also, if you have a clear goal in mind, try some of these tips to help you break this mindset for the better:

• Leave the situation or accept it as it is and start feeling sorry for yourself

• Increase communication to discuss the situation

• Read more self-help books

• Forgive yourself or others who have hurt you

• Develop emotional intelligence

• Routine self-care

• Try journaling (what you are grateful for, how you are progressing, and your emotions)

Accept the past, feel sorry for yourself, and improve your emotional intelligence

Confronting Others with Victim Mentality

It is not uncommon for someone to be frustrated when dealing with an acquaintance who has a victim mentality mindset, especially if that person is someone they love. Therefore, regardless of who it is, if you want to help them stop, try the following strategies:

• Acknowledge that they have experienced painful events in the past, provide empathy, and validate their feelings instead of justifying them.

• Avoid labeling them as a victim just because you don't want to make things worse

• Don't apologize if you are not to blame for a situation

• Identify unhelpful behaviors, such as complaining and irresponsibility, and remind them that they can change

• Set boundaries and don't let them be crossed

• Help to brainstorm and don't be attacked

In conclusion, victim mentality can be eliminated, but it can also continue if one does not have the awareness to change. Past trauma is painful and it's not your fault, but that doesn't mean you can't control the future. Don't forget to feel sorry for yourself to get through this situation and seek help if needed.

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