Do you often feel confused when making decisions or making your own choices? Because you experience it often, you realize that you are one of those people who find it difficult to make a decision or make choice. Even though they said that life is a choice….
Having these traits and attitudes will sometimes make life more difficult. Whether we can not decide nor dare things ourselves out of worry, fear, or doubt. Every choice indeed has its risks, but that doesn't mean we can always avoid choices.
This mindset should be familiarized by parents to children from childhood. This can help him determine their attitude when they grow up and be ready when they have to make several choices. Because we can't always guide them and make choices, mothers.
From when can children be introduced or taught to make decisions? It is necessary to train from an early age. At least at the age of 1.5 years or when the child can indicate what he wants. Of course, it can be started with a light choice such as "What kind of clothes do you want to wear?", "What do you want to play?", "Which color do you like?", and others. You can line up two colors or two different types of clothes and ask your children this question and let them decide. In this way, children become used to it and begin to recognize the existence of choices. As they grow, we can try to gradually ask more complicated questions.
What we need to understand when teaching children to make decisions is to learn the risks, reasons, and solutions for these choices. So not only learning and informing about the risk of cause and effect and the consequences of the choices he makes but also guiding how to solve or find the best solution. Then the second is to respect their decision. Don't let your children be afraid to make decisions in the future, or they will learn to suppress their decisions instead. If you think the children's decision is not right, a little bit wrong, inappropriate or inaccurate, also teach them the possible outcomes and ask if they want to experience it. Then avoid blaming them but point out the right choice with intonation and sentences that do not force, but give understanding or conviction. Sometimes children still hard to make decisions that are right for them and just want to enjoy their fun. So don't lose your attention and guidance as a parent until he can make his own decisions and solve problems after that, okay?
By getting used to making decisions and being confronted with choices, children will get used to it so that when they grow up they already know what to choose and how to respond well. Keep it up, moms!